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What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage

By Paul David Tripp

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Marriage, according to Scripture, will always involve two flawed people living with each other in a fallen world. Yet, in pastor Paul Tripp's professional experience, the majority of couples enter marriage with unrealistic expectations, leaving them unprepared for the day-to-day realities of married life.

This unique book introduces a biblical and practical approach to those realities that is rooted in God's faithfulness and Scripture's teaching on sin and grace. "Spouses need to be reconciled to each other and to God on a daily basis," Tripp declares. "Since we're always sinners married to sinners, reconciliation isn't just the right response in moments of failure. It must be the  lifestyle  of any healthy marriage."

What Did You Expect?  presents six practical commitments that give shape and momentum to such a lifestyle. These commitments, which include honestly facing sin, weakness, and failure; willingness to change; and embodying Christ's love, will equip couples to develop a thriving, grace-based marriage in all circumstances and seasons of their relationship.

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Paul David Tripp (DMin, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a pastor, an award-winning author, and an international conference speaker. He has written numerous books, including  Lead ; Parenting ; and the bestselling devotional  New Morning Mercies . His not-for-profit ministry exists to connect the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life. Tripp lives in Philadelphia with his wife, Luella, and they have four grown children.

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Table of Contents

1.  What Did You Expect?  2.  Reason to Continue  3.  Whose Kingdom?  4.  Day by Day 

COMMITMENT 1: We will give ourselves to a regular lifestyle of confession and forgiveness. 5.  Coming Clean: Confession  6.  Canceling Debts 

COMMITMENT 2: We will make growth and change our daily agenda. 7.  Pulling Weeds 8.  Planting Seeds 

COMMITMENT 3: We will work together to build a sturdy bond of trust. 9.  Sticking Out Your Neck  10. Someone to Be Trusted 

COMMITMENT 4: We will commit to building a relationship of love. 11. All You Need Is Love  12. Ready, Willing, and Waiting 

COMMITMENT 5: We will deal with our differences with appreciation and grace. 13. Amazing Grace  14. Before Dark 

COMMITMENT 6: We will work to protect our marriage. 15. Eyes Wide Open  16. On Your Knees  17. Worship, Work, and Grace

Endorsements

“Noel and I listened to most of this book driving in the car! Wise words. Authentic experience. Provocative application. Turned a long trip into a fruitful two-person marriage seminar.” John Piper , Founder and Teacher, desiringGod.org; Chancellor, Bethlehem College & Seminary; author, Desiring God

“At once deeply theological and practically relevant, this is one of the top books on marriage I have ever read. Paul Tripp allows readers to examine marriage through a biblical lens so that we understand how God can graciously heal our hurting homes. As a pastor, I will implore our people to read this book as soon as it is available.” Chris Brauns , Pastor, The Red Brick Church, Stillman Valley, Illinois; author, Unpacking Forgiveness ;  Bound Together ; and When the Word Leads Your Pastoral Search

“What I’ve come to expect from Paul Tripp is consistently deep, transparent, biblical, wise, practical, gospel-driven counsel. Rather than muddying the water with self-focused strategies designed to meet our ever-multiplying needs, Paul, as the seasoned soul-physician he is, correctly diagnoses our problems and provides the cure—humble faith in Jesus Christ. I wasn’t disappointed. You won’t be either.” Elyse Fitzpatrick , coauthor, Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women

“Paul Tripp brings many years of counseling, growth as a husband, and deepening discovery of the liberating power of grace to this realistic and challenging guide to God’s engagement in redeeming marriages that are threatened by complacency, misunderstanding, and selfishness. The Bible’s message of the humbling and healing power of Christ’s mercy and the powerful presence of his Spirit in our homes comes through loud and clear. The daily practicality of gospel doctrine is made crystal clear by Tripp’s transparency about his personal missteps in becoming a Christ-reflecting husband and the many examples of couples who have discovered that they are sinners married to sinners. But that the third, divine Party in marriage gives hope and change when unrealistic expectations are shattered and when we confront our sin. But be warned: Tripp’s diagnostic questions are downright uncomfortable. Even those with strong marriages by God’s grace will find their deep tendencies toward self-coronation challenged!” Dennis E. Johnson , Professor Emeritus of Practical Theology, Westminster Seminary California; author, Him We Proclaim ; Walking with Jesus through His Word ; and Journeys with Jesus

“Paul Tripp issues a challenge for couples to roll up their sleeves, get to work, and do what it takes to build a God-honoring relationship. He presents six commitments for couples to make, and contained within each is insightful, practical, and effective advice on how to construct a loving, growing, grace-soaked marriage.” Mary A. Kassian ,  author,  Growing Grateful

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This narrator ruins the book for me. Get a cup of coffee or something. Goodness sakes. It sounds like he’s trying to stay awake.

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Worst NARRATION I’ve ever heard.

Excellent book. Very helpful content great thoughts and examples….ruined by horrible narration!! Monotone speech.

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marriage saver

wow, this is such awesome insight. I am about to listen again. thank you for writing this book and I am so glad it was recommended to me. I will share with every married couple I know. Truth kicked my behind, but in a good, life changing way!

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This is such a good book that reminds us of what marriage really is about (to glorify God) and how our sin gets in the way. I loved how Tripp always pointed us back to God, His Word, and His Grace and mercy. Highly recommend!

Excellent resource for marriage counseling

This book is an excellent resource for Christian couples, singles and or separated or divorced. Tripp does a great job in contextualizing biblical principles of marriage. My now wife and I read it during our engagement period and it has equipped us with tools for better communication, prayer and love for Christ and each other. A must read!

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I've been married 32 awesome years and have a great marriage. Yet this book challenged me in area's I've overlooked or didn't pay enough attention to. Everyone needs to read this book

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A longtime Christian counselor presents reconciliation as a lifestyle for all marriages and illustrates this grace-based approach with six daily commitments that will equip couples to navigate the day-to-day realities of married life.

• Print length 288 pages
• Language English
• Publisher Crossway
• Publication date Oct. 31 2015
• Dimensions 15.24 x 1.83 x 22.86 cm
• ISBN-10 143354945X
• ISBN-13 978-1433549458
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Paul David Tripp (DMin, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a pastor, popular author, and international conference speaker. He has written numerous books, including New Morning Mercies . His nonprofit ministry exists to connect the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life. Tripp lives in Philadelphia with his wife, Luella, and they have four grown children.

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“Noel and I listened to most of this book driving in the car! Wise words. Authentic experience. Provocative application. Turned a long trip into a fruitful two-person marriage seminar.” ― John Piper , Founder and Teacher, desiringGod.org; Chancellor, Bethlehem College & Seminary; author, Desiring God

“When Paul Tripp teaches, preaches, or writes he does so through the lens of the gospel. In What Did You Expect? , Paul faithfully and brilliantly lets the gospel bear its weight on the messiness and beauty of marriage. I, personally, found the book to be helpful, and we use it extensively at the Village Church.” ― Matt Chandler , Lead Pastor, The Village Church, Dallas, Texas; President, Acts 29 Church Planting Network; author, The Mingling of Souls and The Explicit Gospel

“At once deeply theological and practically relevant, this is one of the top books on marriage I have ever read. Paul Tripp allows readers to examine marriage through a biblical lens so that we understand how God can graciously heal our hurting homes. As a pastor, I will implore our people to read this book as soon as it is available.” ― Chris Brauns , Pastor, The Red Brick Church, Stillman Valley, Illinois; author, Unpacking Forgiveness , Bound Together , and When the Word Leads Your Pastoral Search

“What I’ve come to expect from Paul Tripp is consistently deep, transparent, biblical, wise, practical, gospel-driven counsel. Rather than muddying the water with self-focused strategies designed to meet our ever-multiplying needs, Paul, as the seasoned soul-physician he is, correctly diagnoses our problems and provides the cure―humble faith in Jesus Christ. I wasn’t disappointed. You won’t be either.” ― Elyse Fitzpatrick , author, Give Them Grace

“Paul Tripp brings many years of counseling, growth as a husband, and deepening discovery of the liberating power of grace to this realistic and challenging guide to God’s engagement in redeeming marriages that are threatened by complacency, misunderstanding, and selfishness. The Bible’s message of the humbling and healing power of Christ’s mercy and the powerful presence of his Spirit in our homes comes through loud and clear. The daily practicality of gospel doctrine is made crystal clear by Tripp’s transparency about his personal missteps in becoming a Christ-reflecting husband and the many examples of couples who have discovered that they are sinners married to sinners. But that the third, divine Party in marriage gives hope and change when unrealistic expectations are shattered and when we confront our sin. But be warned: Tripp’s diagnostic questions are downright uncomfortable. Even those with strong marriages by God’s grace will find their deep tendencies toward self-coronation challenged!” ― Dennis E. Johnson , Professor Emeritus of Practical Theology, Westminster Seminary California; author, Him We Proclaim ; Walking with Jesus through His Word ; and Journeys with Jesus

“Paul Tripp issues a challenge for couples to roll up their sleeves, get to work, and do what it takes to build a God-honoring relationship. He presents six commitments for couples to make, and contained within each is insightful, practical, and effective advice on how to construct a loving, growing, grace-soaked marriage.” ― Mary A. Kassian , author, Girls Gone Wise

“Noel and I listened to most of this book driving in the car! Wise words. Authentic experience. Provocative application. Turned a long trip into a fruitful two-person marriage seminar.” ― John Piper, Founder and Teacher, desiringGod.org; Chancellor, Bethlehem College & Seminary; author, Desiring God

“When Paul Tripp teaches, preaches, or writes he does so through the lens of the gospel. In What Did You Expect? , Paul faithfully and brilliantly lets the gospel bear its weight on the messiness and beauty of marriage. I, personally, found the book to be helpful, and we use it extensively at the Village Church.” ― Matt Chandler, Lead Pastor, The Village Church, Dallas, Texas; President, Acts 29 Church Planting Network; author, The Mingling of Souls and The Explicit Gospel

“At once deeply theological and practically relevant, this is one of the top books on marriage I have ever read. Paul Tripp allows readers to examine marriage through a biblical lens so that we understand how God can graciously heal our hurting homes. As a pastor, I will implore our people to read this book as soon as it is available.” ― Chris Brauns, Pastor, The Red Brick Church, Stillman Valley, Illinois; author, Unpacking Forgiveness ; Bound Together ; and When the Word Leads Your Pastoral Search

“What I’ve come to expect from Paul Tripp is consistently deep, transparent, biblical, wise, practical, gospel-driven counsel. Rather than muddying the water with self-focused strategies designed to meet our ever-multiplying needs, Paul, as the seasoned soul-physician he is, correctly diagnoses our problems and provides the cure―humble faith in Jesus Christ. I wasn’t disappointed. You won’t be either.” ― Elyse Fitzpatrick, coauthor, Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women

“Paul Tripp brings many years of counseling, growth as a husband, and deepening discovery of the liberating power of grace to this realistic and challenging guide to God’s engagement in redeeming marriages that are threatened by complacency, misunderstanding, and selfishness. The Bible’s message of the humbling and healing power of Christ’s mercy and the powerful presence of his Spirit in our homes comes through loud and clear. The daily practicality of gospel doctrine is made crystal clear by Tripp’s transparency about his personal missteps in becoming a Christ-reflecting husband and the many examples of couples who have discovered that they are sinners married to sinners. But that the third, divine Party in marriage gives hope and change when unrealistic expectations are shattered and when we confront our sin. But be warned: Tripp’s diagnostic questions are downright uncomfortable. Even those with strong marriages by God’s grace will find their deep tendencies toward self-coronation challenged!” ― Dennis E. Johnson, Professor Emeritus of Practical Theology, Westminster Seminary California; author, Him We Proclaim ; Walking with Jesus through His Word ; and Journeys with Jesus

“Paul Tripp issues a challenge for couples to roll up their sleeves, get to work, and do what it takes to build a God-honoring relationship. He presents six commitments for couples to make, and contained within each is insightful, practical, and effective advice on how to construct a loving, growing, grace-soaked marriage.” ― Mary A. Kassian, author, Growing Grateful

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Paul David Tripp  (DMin, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a pastor, award-winning author, and international conference speaker. He has written numerous books, including the best seller  New Morning Mercies  and  Dangerous Calling.  His nonprofit ministry exists to connect the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life. Tripp lives in Philadelphia with his wife, Luella, and they have four grown children. For more information and resources, visit paultrippministries.org.

Paul David Tripp (DMin, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a pastor, award-winning author, and international conference speaker. He has written numerous books, including the best seller New Morning Mercies . His nonprofit ministry exists to connect the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life. Tripp lives in Philadelphia with his wife, Luella, and they have four grown children.

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• Publisher ‏ : ‎ Crossway; Redesign edition (Oct. 31 2015)
• Language ‏ : ‎ English
• Paperback ‏ : ‎ 288 pages
• ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 143354945X
• ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1433549458
• Item weight ‏ : ‎ 408 g
• Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 15.24 x 1.83 x 22.86 cm
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What Did You Expect?

Think back to when you first got married. What were your expectations? Popular speaker and author Paul David Tripp talks about the reality of marriage and reminds couples that marriage is a union between two flawed people in a fallen world.

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Paul David Tripp is a pastor, author and conference speaker. He is the president of  Paul Tripp Ministries and works to connect the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life. This vision has led Paul to write  17 books  on Christian living, produce  14 teaching series  and travel around the world  speaking at events.  Paul's driving passion is to help people understand how the gospel of Jesus Christ speaks with practical hope into all the things people experience in this broken world.

Book Review: What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage

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Author Paul David Tripp is the president of Paul Tripp Ministries and the executive director of the Center for Pastoral Care in Fort Worth, TX. He majored in Bible and Christian Education at Columbia Bible College (now Columbia International University) and went on to receive his Master of Divinity degree from the Reformed Episcopal Seminary and a Doctor of Ministry degree in Biblical Counseling from Westminster Theological Seminary. He has planted a church, founded a school, wrote worship songs, toured with a Christian band, served as a faculty member at the Christian Counseling and Education Foundation, and has now written over thirty books, including New Morning Mercies: A Daily Gospel Devotional ; Dangerous Calling: Confronting the Unique Challenges of Pastoral Ministry ; and Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family. Dr. Tripp has been married to his wife, Luella, for over 40 years, and they have four grown children.

What Did you Expect? is a book about marriage. But it is so much more. “The Bible isn’t an encyclopedia,” Tripp begins, “it is a story, the great origin-to-destiny story of redemption” (16). This means, the Bible doesn’t just have a section about marriage to which its readers can refer. Rather, the story of the Bible “tells us things about God, about ourselves, about life in this present world, and about the nature of the human struggle and the divine solution, to that degree,” Tripp continues, “every passage of the Bible is a marriage passage” (17).

Tripp’s book, then, begins with several chapters that lay out the biblical story of what sinfulness has done to the human condition. Sin, he explains, is rooted in selfishness and self-love. Sin, as God describes it in 2 Corinthians 5, causes us to “live for [our]selves.” “Sin turns us in on ourselves. Sin makes us shrink our lives to the narrow confines of our little self-defined world. Sin causes us to shrink our focus, motivation, and concern to the size of our own wants, needs, and feelings. Sin causes all of us to be way too self-aware and self-important. Sin causes us to be offended most by offenses against us and to be concerned most for what concerns us. Sin causes us to dream selfish dreams and to plan self-oriented plans. Because of sin, we really do love us, and we have a wonderful plan for our own lives!” (47).

Throughout the book, Tripp then applies what the selfish nature of sin does to marriages. Sin leads husband and wife to seek the self-serving agenda of their own kingdoms rather than the serve-God-and-others agenda of the kingdom of God (48). Sin leads husband and wife to view each other either as “vehicles” that can be used to “help us get the things we want” (which leads to a false sense of love for the other) or as “obstacles” that get “in the way of what we want” (which leads to impatience, frustration, and anger at the other) (118,119). Sin leads husband and wife to have an inaccurate view of self, which then leads to self-righteousness and to seeing the other as the source of any problems that arise (75). In summary, Tripp teaches that sin produces a barrier to true love within a marriage because we are too busy loving ourselves (47).

Tripp’s understanding of the total depravity of sin, the self-love which it produces, and the ramifications that has upon marriage leads him to point his readers outside of themselves for the solution to sin and its effects – to the grace of God found in the substitutionary work of Jesus Christ. God’s grace is able to produce transformational change within the marriage bond because God’s grace produces transformational change within the sinners that make up the marriage. “You are not alone in your struggle,” Tripp encourages, “The Bible says that God is near…You are not left to your own resources. [God is] with you and is committed to giving you everything you need” (25).

Tripp points to the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead as ultimate proof of that. His resurrection proves to us that God is faithful, powerful, and willing to transform us by his grace (25,26). He points to the forgiveness Christ won for us, to the identity we now have as children of God, to the love Christ showed us on his cross and that remains continually present with us through his Word (78). And he reminds us that the grace God has shown us in Christ has the power to uproot the selfish agenda our sinfulness creates in life and within marriage. God plants in its place the fruit of the spirit – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (123-126).

With this foundation of sin and grace laid, Tripp dedicates the last half of his book to applying these foundational principles to six commitments God calls husband and wife to make within their marriage. The six commitments are:

• We will give ourselves to a regular lifestyle of confession and forgiveness.
• We will make growth and change our daily agenda.
• We will work together to build a sturdy bond of trust.
• We will commit to building a relationship of love.
• We will deal with our differences with appreciation and grace.
• We will work to protect our marriage.

Tripp expounds on each of these specific commitments with the same general themes he introduced in the first half of the book – the effects sin has upon the human condition, and the power of God’s grace to change and transform.

In the preface of the book, the author states that he desires to offer the reader two things: “God’s powerful, transforming grace and his life-rearranging wisdom. In these two things you will find hope and real change for your marriage” (12). Paul Tripp accomplished his goal. His book is filled with insightful illustrations of what marriage is like and with numerous real-life examples of what couples experience within marriage, both produced from years of working with couples as a marriage counselor. But these illustrations and examples would mean nothing if they were not founded upon a deep understanding of sin and grace, and of God’s use of law and gospel in his Word.

Paul Tripp understands them. He understands what sin is and what it does. He understands what God’s grace is and what it does. He understands the total depravity of the sinful nature. He understands that the heart of God is one of rescue and restoration. He understands the substitutionary nature of Christ’s work. He understands the sin-revealing purpose of the law. He understands the life-changing power of the gospel.

This understanding, coupled with Tripp’s experience as a husband, marriage counselor, teacher, and pastor and combined with his ability to write in logical, engaging, and edifying ways makes What Did You Expect? an incredibly useful tool for the parish pastor. First and foremost, the book uses God’s Word to convict and restore on a personal level. A pastor’s own marriage will benefit, especially if pastor and wife read the book together. Secondly, this book will broaden and deepen a pastor’s ability to shepherd husbands and wives who approach him for marriage counseling. It will also lead the pastor to realize the importance of teaching these truths to couples before they get married (and, perhaps even more importantly, to those for whom marriage might still be a long way off). Finally, Tripp’s expositions on sin and grace extend beyond marriage to all relationships and to the Christian life in general. The pastor will find himself able to use many of the law and gospel themes Tripp presents in all of his preaching, teaching, and shepherding.

In summary, What Did you Expect? is worth the read. God has gifted Paul Tripp with the ability to expound upon the unchanging truths of God’s Word in new, fresh, deep, insightful, and thought-provoking ways. His applications of sin and grace are so real; he masterfully uses the living and active Word of God to convict and restore. This deeply theological and practically relevant book will remain on my shelf only when I am not re-reading it myself or loaning it out to others.

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What Did You Expect? Redeeming The Realities Of Marriage (Conference Video Streaming License)

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Somehow, someway, every marriage becomes a struggle.

Everyone’s marriage morphs into something they didn’t intend it to be. At some point you need something sturdier than romance. You need something deeper than shared interests and mutual attraction. You need changed expectations, you need radical commitments, and, most importantly, you need grace.

Use these 10 video lessons and the free Leader's and Discussion Guides for your next small group series, Sunday school curriculum, or ministry retreat - and discover how to develop a marriage of unity, understanding, and love.

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10 video sessions available to stream and download.

Total Run Time: 3 hours, 58 minutes.

Sessions Include:

• Roots of a Good Marriage (24:43)
• The Biggest Problem (26:56)
• The DNA of Sin (22:39)
• "I Need Help" (26:06)
• Treasure - Part 1 (29:03)
• Treasure - Part 2 (23:10)
• What Is Love? (26:04)
• A Better Way (21:38)
• Rooted In Worship (18:02)
• The Marriage Bed (19:57)

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Carnival Legend will temporarily move operations to Norfolk, Virginia.

The ship's current cruise, which left for a planned round-trip sailing from Baltimore on March 24, will end in Norfolk on Sunday. Passengers will then receive free bus rides to Baltimore. The vessel's next cruise will sail round-trip from Norfolk later that day.

“Our thoughts remain with the impacted families and first responders in Baltimore,” Carnival president Christine Duffy said in a statement. “We appreciate the pledge made by President Biden today to dedicate all available resources to reopen Baltimore Harbor to marine traffic as soon as possible. As those plans are finalized, we will update our future cruise guests on when we will return home to Baltimore, but in the meantime, we appreciate the quick response and support from officials in Norfolk.”

The cruise line has not yet shared plans for Carnival Pride. Carnival's parent company, Carnival Corp., said the temporary change in homeport is estimated to have an impact of up to $10 million on adjusted EBITDA and adjusted net income this year, according to a news release .

Royal Caribbean's Vision of the Seas, which left from Baltimore on March 23 , will return to Norfolk instead on April 4. "Our guests on board will be provided compensation and complimentary shuttle transportation as well as Wi-Fi and phone calls to adjust their travel arrangements," a spokesperson said in an email.

The ship's April 4 and 12 cruises will leave from Norfolk, too. "Our guests booked to sail with us will receive compensation due to the necessary adjustments made to their vacations," the spokesperson added. "After returning from the April 12 cruise, Vision will head to the Bahamas for its previously scheduled maintenance."

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American Cruise Lines has roundtrip sailings from Baltimore scheduled in May, according to its website.

“We will monitor the situation and make adjustments to future cruises if needed, but at the present time our schedules remain unaffected, and our thoughts remain with those affected by the immediate situation and rescue efforts underway,” an American Cruise Lines spokesperson told USA TODAY.

Norwegian Cruise Line doesn’t appear to have any Baltimore sailings until September on Norwegian Sky . The line will stay in contact with the port and share any changes with passengers and travel partners, according to a spokesperson.

"In the meantime, we wish the city of Baltimore strength during this very unfortunate event," they said in an email.

Alternate routes for the Baltimore bridge

Most drivers can take Interstate 95 (Fort McHenry Tunnel) or Interstate 895 (Baltimore Harbor Tunnel) to avoid the collapsed bridge. However Maryland Transportation Authority notes there are some exceptions .

Vehicles carrying hazardous materials, including more than 10 pounds of propane, are not allowed in the tunnels. Additionally, vehicles more than 13-feet and 6-inches high or 8-feet wide may not use the 1-895 Baltimore Harbor Tunnel. Vehicles more than 14-feet and 6-inches high or 11-feet wide may not use the I-95 Fort McHenry Tunnel. 

Those vehicles should use the western portion of I-695 instead.

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